What Do You Learn From Your Boyfriend?

Last Monday night's conversation was about me being the irresponsible kid I am and these were some of boyfriend's words of advice (Take note of the word "some". Yes, these are only some of all the things that he said)...


"You know, i was just suggesting lang kanina for you lang sad na di masayang imong time to do things that you need to do. I advice, make use of your spare time kay di naka tambay where you could have time for everything na kailangan/gusto nimo buhaton."

"You're just giving me problem pag di ka gaingon. I'd be glad pa hinuon if i could help you out with your problems and if i could make you feel better. Thru that, i'd be happy for i know i've been there for you as your boyfriend. Pero how could i help you if you don't help yourself? Please, help yourself. You know that you have that kind of negative attitude then you should do something for that. We are rational enough to change our behavior. You're not a kid anymore. Diba? Ingon pa nila that the only constant thing in this world is change. So there's no reason for you not to change."

"Love, don't solve your problem with another problem."

"Love, i know it's gonna be hard on your part. But no worries, i'm always here for you. Just be happy please. I don't want you sad."

"The judgments are not yet the bottomline. They'll see soon and prove themself wrong. I'm just paying attention to the possibilities in the future."

"Let's just say na love tika and i think it's enough to give me strength to keep going. I love you so much with all my heart and without any hesitations, i'm willing to be hurt, judged and whatsoever just not to give up on us. I love you."


Be responsible. Talk things out. Help yourself. Change for the better. Ignore the judgments. Prove them wrong. Don't give up. Be happy. Love fully. ♥

So Many Reasons

In the middle of our text conversation, boyfriend asked me why I loved him and I said I couldn't answer that, but then he insisted so I took the risk of being cheesy and this was what I got to compose...


"I love you because you make me happy. I love you because you're there for me even at the most inconvenient times. I love you because you always make me feel loved. I love you because you shower me with hugs and kisses. I love you because just the thought of you makes me smile. I love you because you don't give up on me. I love you because you don't give up on us. I love you because you're funny. I love you because you understand. I love you because you give me your time and effort. I love you because you dream big. I love you because you believe in God. I love you because you're smart. I love you because you make me feel good about myself. I love you because we don't have to pretend. I love you because of so many things. I love you because of you. :)"


Reasoning your love out to your partner is a common thing in a relationship. This is the first time I've done this in our six months of being together. I know I could have done better than that and could have said more than that because I honestly still can think of so much more reasons, but I meant that and that made him happy so I guess that's all that matters. Some might probably say that putting a "because" on your "I love yous" is overrated. Some might also say that justifying your love would make it unreal because if you really love someone, you wouldn't find the words why. But I think it can be healthy sometimes to think over why you're really in love with the person. It's also one way to express how you appreciate the person and who they are and what they do and what they do for you and how they make you better. The important thing really is you mean what you say. That's basically it.


Is it just me or "I Love You" really looks awkward when their first letters are capitalized?

Why Am I Dating Him Again?

I know what you're thinking. It's not that bad to take a rest from being original sometimes as long as it's worth it. Nah, this is just too inspiring not to re-post. ♥

"Date a man who doesn’t spend his money on drink, or clothes, or video games, but saves what he has to go on adventures and pursue his dreams. He might have problems dealing with everyday things but no-one sees the possibilities life holds like he does. This is a man who is ready for anything, who will drop everything on a moment’s notice to run away and get lost somewhere with you or show up unannounced to whisk you away on some crazy adventure. Date a man who sees the world in millions of colours, who has his head in the clouds and his feet on the ground.

Date a man who hasn’t got the money to spoil you or shower you with gifts but finds a way to do it anyway. You can trust that he’ll find a way to touch your heart and make you feel special in new ways. He knows that words and gifts aren’t what matters. Every time he gives you something or writes to you he is giving you a piece of his soul. And every time you give him something or write to him he will truly treasure it and understand the effort you put in to choosing the gift, the words, or even making it yourself.

Date a man who sees how amazing you are even if you don’t see it yourself, who sees how good things could be for you. Because a man like this who can see the end goal, the big picture, will keep on going because no obstacle can compare to what lies ahead. Date a man who believes in true love, in romance. He will dream up incredible fantasies that the two of you can bring to life together. He will take you places other people can’t even imagine. Date a man who believes in you, because he will help you believe as well. He will see echoes of you in every thing of beauty, and he sees beauty in everything. A man like this will always think you’re the most beautiful girl in the world and will always be there for you.

Date a man who reads books and comics, who watches films and cartoons, who laughs at stupid jokes and knows when to fall into a reverential silence and drink in the moment with you. You can just be yourself with him and he’ll just be himself. He’ll understand why you love the things you do and he’ll appreciate them and be interested in them too, even his own passions lie elsewhere. He understands your whims and desires, because he’s seen them acted out in his mind. And whatever the scenario, no matter how bad things get, he sees how the story ends. And because he sees how it ends, he knows that all tragedies are overcome, all villains vanquished and fears are banished, no matter how desperate the situation may appear. Better still, date a man who writes.

Date a man who can’t be pigeon holed into any one category, who can mingle in any crowd but doesn’t truly fit in any one scene. He’s an individual, a man who knows what it takes to stand out from the crowd and who doesn’t mind being judged or thought of as different. That’s why he will never judge you or make lazy assumptions about you. That’s why he will always see you as your own person, as a unique and wonderful individual.

Fail him. Let him down. Hurt him. He’ll do the same to you: but he knows that this is just how things go. He knows that life is made up of ups and downs. He will understand that when you lash out at him or push him away, there are many reasons why. Instead of getting mad or retaliating he’ll try and make things right. He knows when to apologise and admit to making mistakes. He’s also quick to forgive because he knows how easy it is to make mistakes. He understands that your flaws and vulnerabilities make you beautiful and strong.

He knows that perfect harmony doesn’t exist and that nothing is forever. He knows that you see this too: he sees beauty and freedom in this and wants to help you see it too. He knows fear and embraces it. He knows sadness. He knows his many flaws. He is prepared to adapt and to change because he respects your values and your opinions. He knows that nobody is perfect but that doesn’t stop him trying to do his best. He knows that love needs to be worked for, that relationships are a constant flow from love and laughter to arguments and conflict, that like all things the good times come with the bad and that the dancing and loving and laughing are worth the fighting. He wants you to be happy even if it means not being with you, but in his heart he believes that he can make you happy like nobody else and so will do anything to be with you.

Date a man who remembers every little thing about you, who is intuitive, who can see when you’re happy or sad, when you need cheering up or when you want to get away from it all or just forget everything for a while. He sees everything about you. He understands that you’ll be a different person from moment to moment, that you’ll change your mind and your mood without warning. He knows that you can switch between being a baller shot caller, a kawaii otaku, an artistic auteur or a femme fatale in the blink of an eye, an that they are all a part of who you are. He loves and pays attention to each and every aspect of your personality, from the girl who needs to be cuddled and cared for to the woman with her own needs and desires.

Date a man who fights to be in your life no matter what. A man who values you and believes he should be with you will only see that you are scared of how much this could mean for both of you. This kind of guy who will always be there for you when the times are tough, who is always looking out for you even when you’re not together or when you cannot see him. Date a man who will always believe you should be together: a man who will never give up on you no matter what. Date a man you’re scared to date, precisely because you cannot think of a reason you should be scared to be with him.

Date a man who knows that this isn’t about him, but about you: a man who loves you with his heart and soul. You deserve it.

Date a man who dreams. Who dreams about you.

Or better yet, date a man who lives his dreams."

- Date A Man Who Dreams,
Dom Tsui

Still Lookin' Up

August 30, 2012

"God knows I'm tough enough...

God knows we're worth it."

-I Won't Give Up, Jason Mraz

Just Say Good Night

September 13, 2012
Text conversation with boyfriend.
Fell asleep without saying good night...

Me: "Good morning, lablaaab! Nakatug nasad ko. I'm sorryyy. Mwa! I love you so much!! Bday na sa akong daddy. Haha. :)"
Me: "Tulog pa akong uyaaab?"
Me: "I love you! Good morning!!! Naa nako sa office. :)"
Boyfriend: "Bleh! Pangiiit! :p"

Happens all the time. I'm thankful that he doesn't put up a fight with me just because of sleeping him off even though I know he doesn't like it when I do. He then just says "Kung dili pa lagi lab ah." I'm such a spoiled girlfriend. *Giggles* ♥